Every email I received in response to my complaints yesterday (about my display-swapping issues) was along the lines of, "Hope you figure it out, I have this problem too, let me know." I guess that means other people are struggling as well. I've yet to receive a solution that works the way I'd hoped.
On a somewhat related note, I forgot to mention a long time ago that many people emailed to point me in the direction of iPhoto Library Manager to deal with my local/networked library management. I've still yet to try it out, but I've heard lots of good things. Thanks to everyone who sent that my way.